My ~Sway~

Just for reference–in case anyone wants to read it (and so I can show my darling daughter how hard I had to work for her hahaha), I’m going to write my sway up, here! (Well, copy it from where I’d already written it :p)

NAME     -wingless
Gender Resulted     -girl
Swaying Attempt – Natural  details?     -uhm.. natural w/shallow penetration & no female orgasm (hardest thing EVER!)

CM Ph     -4.5
DH Ph     -7
Douche type and when     -n/a
Replens and when     -n/a
Big O     -No

Calcium     -12600mg per day
Magnesium     -400mg per day
Potassium     -n/a
Sodium     -n/a
DH minerals     -630mg per day of calcium, 400mg per day magnesium

Dietary Changes     -IG Girl Diet 3 months (give or take a week)
Did you continue diet after attempt/ how long?     -about 1.5/2 weeks. We weren’t really trying (though we did reamain strictly on the diet), since we decided on IVF/PGD because we though we were out yet again
Caffeine     -n/a
DH caffeine     -n/a

Drinks     -n/a
Supplements     -B6 200mg per day

Cranberry     -3360mg per day
Acidophilus     -n/a
Sudafed     -n/a
Others     -Baby Aspirin, Folic Acid 800mcg per day
DH supps     -630mg per day of calcium, 400mg per day magnesium, Cranberry 3360mg per day

BD cutoff (# of days)     -Not 100% sure.. either a 3 or 4 day cut-off.  We were moving, so I’m not 100% when I ovulated 😦
BD thru O     -Pretty sure no
O+12     -Think it was more like O+18 or so…
Frequent BD/how many days     -Husband frequent release (at least 2x per day)
Charting O with Temp     -No
Charting O with OPK     -No
Fertility monitor used/type     -n/a
Suspected O date     -June 30/July 3

Oed in what moon phase     -Full 😦
Changed ions in other ways?     – -ion bracelets, roze quartz, hematite, -ion panty liners, rock salt lamps, fans, rock salt candle holders, beeswax candles, black tourmaline, loads of showers, lavender lotion, lavender shampoo, lavender conditioner, more fans!

How many kids do you have?     -5
What sex(es)?     -Boys
# of months TTC     -full on TTC, 2 months. Passively TTC, 2 years
Your Age     -30
BD position     -misc. but always with shallow penetration
Jump and dump     -no
EWCM present/how much?     -very little
DH undies type     -boxers
DH hot bath/shower     -hot shower
OWT – anything under bed?     -embarrassing, but yes! I had a girly outfit under each bed and even under the couch! (just in case hahah)

COMMENTS?        -my biorythms (right for my boys) lined up nicely in “girl” territory, my husband’s were neutral, officially Summer, Sexwizard (right for my boys) says Girl, Chinese Gender charts are in agreement with Sexwizard, So I guess it could be worse… though the full moon really (potentially) messes things up 😦 All in all, it was a decent sway. We didn’t think I’d actually ovulated, so we didn’t do EGS like we’d planned. We also didn’t continue the diet til BFP like we’d originally planned because–well, we thought I didn’t ovulate, and we were going to go straight to IVF/PGD, so it was about 2-3 weeks after I ovulated when we stopped the diet and supplements (did stop cranberry on the 3rd and slowly weaned off the B6 over the past 2 weeks but continued with the rest of the supplements til BFPs then stopped all but baby aspirin and folic acid. If we get a boy, I know that we did all we could and we just weren’t meant to have a girl 🙂 (to be honest, though, I’m already 99% sure we did conceive another boy, despite everything! I will of course update when we know, but if we’re going on gut feeling, I’m going to have to say we got boy #6 rather than girl #1!!!)

I’m still pretty shocked.. but pretty excited!

Please keep in mind–swaying is NOT 100%. There’s no concrete proof that any of the above there actually did manage to help us conceive a girl. Of course, since it’s the first time I did it, I’d like to think it did.. but there’s really no way to tell. It could have just been our turn–or something completely unrelated!

Having said that–I do stress that the supplements and the diet (which drastically changed my pH and my husband’s pH) would probably be most imperative. I also think the B6 helped me in particular. I think EGS would have upped our chances a great deal, too!

For anyone trying this, please remember that even if you have the PERFECT sway, you may not end up having the boy or girl that you want. Even saying that, I still think you should put all your effort into doing it right because–to me, if that had resulted in another precious boy, I would have thought “well, I did everything I could do–I was just meant to have another precious boy”–but if I hadn’t suffered through the diet and supplements, (no need to lie about it–the diet was miserable!) I would have always thought “..what if”.

In the end, sway–and sway as hard as you can (while remaining healthy)–but don’t be crushed if it doesn’t work. The only guarantee is High Tech!

Good luck, everyone!


The Seven Sway Methods

Really–I’m just copypasta on this one. Mainly because I can never ever ever find the link when I need it! Sooooo frustrating! (And yes, thank you–I actually have bookmarked it.. like. twice.. and for some crazy reason it keeps disappearing) 😦

The Seven Sway Methods, compliments of Tamara, originally found here

“The seven factors are:

  1. pH– this means the pH caused by diet, hormones, ions, supplements and douches. A douches is not as good as changing your pH through oral methods.
  2. Minerals– You NEED to track your Calcium, Magnesium, Sodium and Potassium.  For ttc a girl and ttc a boy you have different targets to meet.  Minerals are first obtained through diet then supplements.
  3. Diet- It is very important to stick to the gender diet as posted in the FAQ forum on IG.  1000’s of hours have gone into this diet.  It is more than just a swaying diet as it encompasses  all the studies (gender diet, pH, ions, minerals) into one diet.
  4. Hormones–  This is only controlled through supplements, diet and drinks.  Studies show that  hormones play a huge role is swaying
  5. supplements– I put this in the 7 sway factors because it backs up so many of the factors.
  6. Timing–  Many studies say that Timing does not work.  However 3 newer studies say it may.  Because of the new studies I have left Timing in the sway factors.
  7. Ions–  Ions can effect the polarity of your egg and your pH.  Ions come from many different sources and some people are as effect by them as others.”

She goes on to say that she almost considered adding cervical mucus (CM) to the list, but ultimately decided against it, as if we follow all of the above, then “CM should fall into place”.  She adds that, for TTC A girl, we will want Creamy to Dry CM! She also states that–if nothing else, we need to follow the diet. It’s that important to even having the potential to sway.

Hm. Gotta work much harder on that diet 😡

What is Swim Up (SU)?

Please note!!! The methods outlined below are found in GREAT detail and written with extreme time, effort and care in the in-gender forums by people who have tried, experimented, spent a lot of heart, time and effort into compiling these methods and lists free of charge so that we can all have a shot at family balancing, despite your budget (or–in some cases–ethics)!

So what’s this SU method that you will be using?

Well–the Swim Up theory is based on the idea that the “boys” (a.k.a the Y chromosome bearing sperm) will flourish in the “ideal” pH levels. Hypothetically, providing these ideal pH levels would result in encouraging the Y Bearing sperm to “Swim Up” through an egg-white substance, toward such perfect conditions, leaving the “girls” (a.k.a the X chromosome bearing sperm) at the bottom, of the test tube. After an incubation process, the top layers are carefully selected and discarded, leaving–hypothetically–the “girls” at the bottom. This bottom sample is what we will use as our sample, as it should–again, in theory–contain only X chromosome bearing sperm!

Well.. that is silly & you’re crazy.. but Ok–so what next?

Next, we will take a sample from my darling husband (he’ll be suffering, let me tell you, Internets!)–who has been humoring me by changing his diet, taking supplements, hot baths in Summer and all other manner of weirdness to keep me quiet (though he’s smart enough to insist it’s because he, too, wants an little girl)–and taking said sample, putting on my Mad Scientist hat and getting to work! Along with the sample, I will need;

  • An Incubator (& something to periodically check its temperature) (you can buy these relatively cheaply, or you can make your own. We’re going to be making our own)
  • A non-latex, non-spermicide condom, sterile cup (for the sample-catching)
  • pH Strips or a Digital pH tester
  • Lime douche tampon (made by soaking a regular tampon with the applicator in a lime solution with the appropriate–tested–pH levels)
  • 7% Pickling Vinegar mix (or, again, a lime mix)
  • Needless syringe
  • Diva Cup
  • And–of course–the sample

Before we do all of this, we will “prep” the incubator–getting it up to the correct temperature–and have our lime mixture warming up to body temperature (no lower than 98 degrees F and no higher than 99..) so that it will be ready to use. We will be warming  the mixture up in the incubator (we’ll have the space) or it can be warmed up in a sink of hot water. It’s advised to not use a microwave to warm the lime! Then, we test the pH of the sample!  We will need to have it between 4 and 4.5 for ideal conditions for those Xs. We’ll then have to add–ever so gently–our lime and sperm together, swishing it gently to mix it. (for no longer than 10 minutes!) At this point, we can decide “Oh, hell–this is too much!”  and we can use that sample–or we can continue on. I’m pretty sure that–with at least our first try–we’ll be continuing on. (For the record–the process outlined above is called the Turkey Baster Method–or TBM and probably the easiest, least involved of the three “available” EGS @ Home methods for trying to conceive a girl.

Ok, ok–get on with it, already!

Here are the steps to take before we actually start incubating!

  1. My dear, patient husband will provide me with his sample in a cup
  2. We will then proceed to place the semen in the bottom of a test tube and take note of the measurement
  3. Carefully place an equivalent amount of Egg White mixture on top of the semen in the test tube. I stress CAREFULLY! We will have to do this extremely carefully! We cannot touch the semen with the tip of the needless syringe! The eggs white mixture should–theoretically–be floating on top of the semen and stay there.
  4. Then, we will place the test tube in an incubator at a 45 degree angle. Be sure the temperature inside the incubator is approximately 99 degrees F. Do NOT exceed 100 degrees!
  5. Take note of the time! The concoction should incubate for one hour.
  6. I will–while that’s started–douche a small amount of lime and water (one tablespoon of each) using a medicine dropper (you can also get a douche bottle for this)
  7. After the hour of incubation (do not exceed!!!), use a dropper to suck up any sperm at the top of the tube as well as all of the egg white mix! Theoretically, these portions will contain the majority of the Ys (boys) and only very small amounts of the Xs (girls). We will then check the sample using a microscope to see what sort of swimmers we’ve extracted! They should be swimming “fast” and “straight”. DISCARD these!!! (Unless, dear reader, you’re reading this and gunning for a boy :p in which case, I suggest you check out the in-gender forums like I did for details on how to “make” a boy :p
  8. Whatever is left in the tube, I will then carefully pour into my Diva Cup (after checking pH levels in my vagina and checking a tiny portion of the sample under the microscope on a clean slide to be sure I’ve got “slow” “circular” swimmers, of course!).
  9. I will go with the above method, using a lime mixture and gently swishing it in with the sperm (on thinking, I’ll probably do this before I put it in the Diva Cup, to avoid unnecessary spillage…) CHECK PH LEVEL!!! I’m unsure the level it’s supposed to be–as I’ve heard a couple of different things–so I’ll have to edit this post later to reflect the exact pH level the lime//semen mixture is supposed to be at. As of this moment, I think it’s a pH level of 4.5-5…
  10. After all is said and done, I will place my Diva Cup with the mixture in my vagina (normal Diva Cup wear, up “on” the cervix). Every 30 minutes, I will remove the Diva Cup, test pH levels, add lime when needed for optimal pH levels and reinsert. Again, I’m not 100% sure on how long to do this for–but I will be doing it for at least 4 hours.

I will be doing this 8 to 12 hours after ovulation! I will be testing with an ovulation kit to see as exactly as possible when I ovulate.

Again, please note!!! The methods outlined above are found in GREAT detail and written with extreme time, effort and care in the in-gender forums by people who have tried, experimented, spent a lot of heart, time and effort into compiling these methods and lists free of charge so that we can all have a shot at family balancing, despite your budget (or–in some cases–ethics)!